I’ve never shopped much. Even before fibromyalgia. But at least I could shop if I wanted to. I had the ability to get myself to the store. I had the energy to try stuff on. I had a paycheck I could use to buy the clothes. Now . . . not so much.
Getting myself to the store will likely cause pain because I have to drive longer than 20 minutes. The thought of entering a brightly lit, crowded department store makes my skin feel tight and crawly. And the idea of trying on clothes? Ohmygod. I’m crying tears of exhaustion already. And although my husband calls his paycheck “our money,” it feels just a little less good spending it. Especially considering that he still owns and wears clothes from the early ’90s. He doesn’t shop much either.
And, as a result of my shopping impairment, I’m not exactly fashion forward. In fact, I’m more like fashion 8 – 10 years ago. Or “fashion lacking”. On days that I feel not so great about my attire, I try and cheer myself up by remembering that I spend my energy elsewhere. Like on my daughter, volunteering at her school, on friends, on family. Oh, and on maintaining any remaining vestiges of my health. But sometimes there’s no getting around it: it feels bad to look bad.
But sometimes I wish my wardrobe were different. I wish I had the knee-high boots that other moms wear. I wish I had a sweater that wasn’t pilling. I wish my selection of pants included more than ripped jeans and fleece sweat pants.
Then I found Stitch Fix. (As you will see in a moment, they are so not paying me to write this). Stitch Fix is an online service that allows you to fill out a style profile and then a “personal shopper” sends you you clothes. You can return anything you don’t like in a prepaid mailer.
I won’t lie. My expectations were high. Can a person I’ve never met send me awesome clothes that I will love and look good in? Sure, why not?! I was finally going to have access to stylish clothes! I was going to have something new! And I didn’t have to leave my house! I believed, people, I totally believed.
My clothes came two days ago and then I let Journey down. I stopped believing.
Here’s what I got in my stitch fix box:
Aaaaaannnnd another sweat in the above pattern. FOur words: “My eyes!!! My eyes!!!!”
Then there was this. In my “style profile” said that preppy was my least favorite style. So they sent me a green and black houndstooth jacket with faux tarnished buttons with castles on them? Yes they did! Total return.
Sadly, the first stitch fix box was a flop. And I’m not sure I’m daring enough to try again.
What about you? How do you manage chronic illness and shopping? How do you keep your wardrobe updated? ‘Cause really people, I could use a little help.